<p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:14pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Sağlıksız mükemmeliyetçilik bir süre sonra tükenmişliği getiriyor. </span></span></span></b><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Sağlıksız mükemmeliyetçi kişilerde aşırı kontrol gibi durumların ortaya çıkıyor. Hayattaki tüm talepleri karşılamaya çalışmak</span></span></span></b><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020"> son derece sağlıksızdır</span></span></span></b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">. Halbuki bazı talepleri <b>radikal bir şekilde</b> azaltmak mümkündür. Birçok insan özel yaşamlarında ve işlerinde de kendilerinden <b>aşırı talepler ve beklentilerde</b> bulunur. Bu neden sorgulanmalı?<b> Hiç kimse bir cerrah tarafından</b> üzerinde dikkatsizce yapılmış dikiş istemez. <b>Hiç kimse bir uçağın inşasını </b>ayrıntı noktalara dikkat etmeyen mühendislere bırakmak istemez. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Bir insanın kendisini yerinde mükemmeliyetçi olarak görmesi</span></span></span></b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020"> veya mükemmeli yakalamayı hedeflemesi elbette çok mutlu edicidir. İnsan gelişiminde <b>her zaman mükemmeliyetçiler olmasaydı</b>, muhtemelen bugün hala <b>çamaşırlarımızı elle yıkıyor</b> olurduk. <b>En yüksek performansın çoğu</b>, insanların durağan olmaktan memnun olmamasına dayanıyor. Bu sanatçılar için, sporcular için, mükemmeliyetçinin vücut bulmuş hali olan <b>Steve Jobs gibi</b> şirket kurucuları için geçerli. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:15pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">O halde mükemmeliyetçiliğin sorunu nedir?</span></span></span></b><br /> <br /> <span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Sağlıksız belirtiler vardır. Bunlar <b>aşırı kontrol</b> gibi davranışları içerir, yani <b>her şeyi iki ve üç kez</b> kontrol etmek. Bu, yetki verememeyi içerir. Keza <b>her türlü listeyi sürekli yapmak</b> gibi aşırı planlama yapmak, çoğu zaman yanılıyor olabileceği için kararları da geciktirir. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:15pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Çok temel bir soru şudur, kişi bazen belirli gereksinimleri karşılamayı reddederek ne kadar iyi hayır diyebiliyor?</span></span></span></b><br /> <br /> <span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Bunu yapamazsa, <b>kendisini yeri doldurulamaz hissediyorsa</b>, genellikle bir sorunu vardır. Aslında bu mükemmeliyetçiler için özel bir sorundur. <b>Herhangi bir zayıflığı</b> kabul edemez, <b>çünkü</b> bu son derece kusurlu olur. Çoğunlukla çevre, ilgili kişi farkına bile varmadan birisinin kendisine aşırı yüklediğini fark eder. Sağlıksız mükemmeliyetçiliğin <b>küçümsenme<wbr />mesi gereken bir intihar nedeni</b> olduğunu varsaymak sebepsiz değildir <b>çünkü semptomlar yıllarca tedavi edilmeden</b> kalır. <b>Psikoloji ve psikiyatri kliniklerinde de, çoğu kez, depresyon ve tükenmişlik gibi</b>, işlevsiz mükemmeliyetçiliğin yalnızca güçlü tezahürlerini görüyoruz. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Örneğin bir insan '30 yaşındayım. Üç kızım, bir evim, bir kocam, bir işim ve hala gerçekleştirmek istediğim hayallerim var ve ölmek üzereyim. Bunun sebebi benim!' diyorsa, ne anlaşılır?</span></span></span></b><br /> <br /> <span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Son derece performans odaklı, muhtemelen iyi görünümlü, spor yapacağından emin, profesyonel olarak başarılı ve her alanda mükemmel olmak isteyen bir kadın olabilir, özellikle çocukları varsa aile dahil. Yıkılma noktasına kadar mükemmeldir.</span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Mükemmeliyetçilerin değişken özellikleri olduğunu söyleyerek söyleyebiliriz. </span></span></span></b></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Mükemmeliyetçiliğin tipik özelliği nedir?</span></span></span></b> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Mükemmeliyetçilik özelliği neredeyse her zaman <b>hayatın her alanına</b> sirayet etmiştir. İş, ortaklık, çocuklar, hobiler, kendi bedeniniz. <b>Artık çalışamayak hale gelene kadar</b> çalışmaya devam etmek tipik örneğidir. Profesyonel ya da özel olarak her şeyi mümkün olan en iyi şekilde yapmak isteyen ve diğerine bırakan neredeyse hiç kimse yoktur. <b>Kural olarak</b>, talepler en az profesyonel yaşamdaki kadar yüksektir. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><br /> <span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Kapatmak, hiçbir şey yapmamak, <b>müzikten veya yemek yemekten zevk almak</b> son derece zordur. Asla tembellik yapmaz, çünkü o esnada hala bir şeyler yapmış olabileceği için tembelliği bir zaman kaybı gibi görür. Huzurun izi asla yoktur. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><br /> <span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020"><b>Mükemmeliyetçilik ne kadar yaygın?</b> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Çoğunun değişen derecelerde mükemmeliyetçi eğilimleri var, tesadüfen kadın ve erkekler eşit derecede. Mükemmeliyetçiliğe meyilli insanların yaklaşık yarısı <b>"işlevsel mükemmeliyetçi"</b> olarak tanımlanabilir. Bu, bu kişilik özelliğinin sağlıklı bir çeşididir. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Gerçekten iyi olmak isteyen</span></span></span></b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020"> ama hata yapmaktan, belki başarısız olmaktan korkmayan insanlardır. O zaman <b>tüm kişiliğini hemen sorgulamaz</b>. Eylemlerinin başarısından da keyif alabilecek ve bir sonraki engeli hemen düşünmeyenler. Ve her şeyden önce kendi ihtiyaçlarına, rahatlamaya ihtiyaçları olduğu gerçeğine dikkat edenler. O halde mükemmeliyetçilikle yaşamak en iyisidir." </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:15pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Sağlıksız mükemmeliyetçiliğin özellikleri nelerdir?</span></span></span></b></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">İşlevsiz mükemmeliyetçilerin hata yapmaktan korktukları çok barizdir. İşlevsiz mükemmeliyetçiler kendileri için</span></span></span></b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020"> yüksek standartlar belirlerler, ancak aynı zamanda hata yapmaktan da korkarlar. Genellikle <b>performans yeteneklerinden şüphe ederler</b> ve başkalarının beklentilerini karşılamamaktan korkarlar. Bir şey yolunda gitmediğinde, yeterince iyi olmadıkları için kendilerini suçlarlar. <b>Dışarıdan bakıldığında</b>, böyle bir başarısızlık korkusu tamamen abartılı görünüyor. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Ancak endişe duyanlar için yalnızca iyi ya da kötü nüans yok, teselli yok. Buna ek olarak, işlevsiz mükemmeliyetçiler genellikle diğer insanların artık onlardan hoşlanmadığı hissine kapılıyor ya da başarısız olduklarında saygı duyulmalı, <b>çünkü onlar yalnızca performanslarına göre </b>değerlendirileceklerini varsayarlar. Bu da <b>hata yapma korkusunu</b> artırır. <b>Sağlıksız mükemmeliyetçilikten kaçınmak için</b> ise belirleyici faktör düzenli dinlenmek, rahatlamak için aralar verilmeli. Nefes egzersizleri veya meditasyon gibi gevşeme teknikleri yardımcı olabilir veya toprakla, bahçeyle uğraşmak, sadece huzur içinde sesli bir kitap dinlemek. Stresi azaltan egzersizler yapılmalı. Bilinçli olarak sakin adacıklar oluşturulmalı. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Mükemmeliyetçiler şöyle diyecek;</span></span></span></b><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020"> 'Konuşmak senin için kolay, elbette yapmasam, güzel olurdu, ama sonra her şey olduğu yerde kalır ve işler yığılıyor'. Bu tam da böyle insanlar için pusuda bekleyen tuzaktır. Şöyle düşünüyorlar, "Bunu sadece ben yapabilirim" çocukların arkasını temizlemeye devam ediyorsun, hızlı bir şekilde üç çeşit yemek pişiriyorsun, çamaşırları kendi kendine ütülüyorsun, çünkü görünüşe göre kimse bu kadar iyi yapamıyor. </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><span style="font-size:13.5pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Ancak odaların dağınık olmasının önemli olmadığını söyleyerek, hazır yemekle kırışık nevresim takımıyla yaşama tavsiyesi gibi ikna edici konularda genellikle daha fazla ilerleme kaydedilmez. <b>Bir mükemmeliyetçiye bu kadar kendinden beklentisinin yüksek olmamasını söylemek</b> artık bir alkoliğe içmeyi bırakmasını söylemek kadar mantıksızdır. Mükemmeliyetçilik, kişinin merkezi olan tüm yaşam çevresine kendi imajına uygulanan bir şemadır. Bu nedenle, sonuçta sadece psikoterapi yardımcı olabilir. </span></span></span><b><span style="font-size:14pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Sağlıksız mükemmeliyetçilik danışma 05447243650 hattımızı arayarak sorunlarınızı bizimle paylaşabilirsiniz.</span></span></span></b></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; text-align:start; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b> </b></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p> <p align="center" style="margin:0cm 0cm 0.0001pt; -webkit-text-stroke-width:0px; text-align:center"><span style="font-size:11pt"><span style="color:#222222"><span style="font-style:normal"><span style="font-variant-ligatures:normal"><span style="font-variant-caps:normal"><span style="font-weight:400"><span style="letter-spacing:normal"><span style="orphans:2"><span style="text-transform:none"><span style="white-space:normal"><span style="widows:2"><span style="word-spacing:0px"><span style="background-color:#ffffff"><span style="text-decoration-style:initial"><span style="text-decoration-color:initial"><span style="line-height:normal"><span style="background-image:initial"><span style="background-position:initial"><span style="background-size:initial"><span style="background-repeat:initial"><span style="background-origin:initial"><span style="background-clip:initial"><span style="vertical-align:top"><span style="font-family:Calibri, sans-serif"><b><span style="font-size:14pt"><span style="font-family:Verdana, sans-serif"><span style="color:#202020">Sağlıklı mükemmeliyetçi ve huzurlu günlerde tekrar görüşmek üzere hoşçakalın.</span></span></span></b></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></p>